“Probably my best quality as a coach is that I ask a lot of challenging questions and let the person come up with the answer.” – Phil Dixon
I encourage you to watch or read Oprah’s Duke Commencement Speech.
“It is not how much you do, but how much love you put in the doing.”
Take a few moments to acknowledge great qualities about yourself (your eyes, smile, generosity, sense of humor, etc.)
Write down your 5 best qualities.
Then, pick one and circle it.
Every time you enter a room, focus on this one quality or characteristic. And, when self-doubt creeps in, think of this asset.
Focus your thoughts and your actions on a small piece of your greatness. Doing this will increase your personal power and enable you to to get the most out of your experience.
Be present to your best self.
I’m going out of town this afternoon (at 2pm) for one of my best friends weddings. I went to pick up my bridesmaid dress this morning at the dry cleaners. I arrived at the dry cleaners at 10am and gave the woman my ticket. She told me the dress was not ready and it won’t be ready until 6pm tonight. I reminded her she told me it would be ready by 6pm the day earlier. I told her that I’m going out of town at 2pm and I need the dress. She looked at me with anger…I sensed she didn’t know what to do and there was nothing she could do. I said, “Listen, we’re on a team. How can we make this work?” “What can we do?”
She said, “Nothing.”
I said “Yes, we can make this work. Anything is possible.”
She said, “No, I can’t”
I said, “If you want to, you can.”
She looked at me with curiosity – it seemed she noticed in herself that she didn’t want to make it work.
I said, “What can we do to make this work?”
She picked up the phone, and called her husband. He was able to bring the dress and I had the dress in my hands by 10:30a.m.
I didn’t get angry at her. I continued to believe in her and encouraged her to believe as well.
Together, we made it happen!
Lesson: Work with the moment, don’t be attached to the outcome.
“It is easy to see the fault of others, hard to see one’s own.” – Buddha
This Week Focus On: Listening to Others.
Be patient when listening to others and tune into what the other person is saying. Pay attention to words, ideas, feelings and the underlying intent of others.
People feel relieved when they find someone who understands what they have to say and most likey will reciprocate by listening to you and trying to understand your view point.
Listening is a key element to effective communication and can help you avoid conflicts and improve your relationships.
“Whatever you want to be, start to develop that pattern now. You can instill any trend in your consciousness right now, provided you inject a strong thought in your mind; then your actions and whole being will obey that thought.”
– Paramahanasa Yoganada